We often get asked if it’s okay to date during divorce. In the blog below, we’ll answer that question and help you understand how dating during divorce may affect the divorce process and outcome.
The bottom line: Yes, you can date during the divorce process once a complaint is filed.
New York and New Jersey are no-fault states. Any potential fault found on either party’s part will not be considered when making important decisions during the divorce process. That being said, in both states, you can still list grounds such as adultery, cruelty, and abandonment if you choose to do so. This may or may not make a difference to the Court.
(Quick Note: If you start dating and spending money on a significant other before the complaint is filed, the Court may require you to repay some or all of that money to your spouse.)
How Dating May Impact Your Case
Choosing to date during the divorce process and enter a committed relationship may affect how child custody and parenting time are determined. The Court will consider your romantic partner’s background and criminal history along with other factors as they see fit. If you force your children to bond with your partner and the Court determines this is not in their best interest, this could affect the custody and amount of parenting time you are granted.
Practical Advice for Dating During Divorce
It’s crucial to approach dating during divorce with careful consideration. Here are some practical tips to keep in mind:
- While it’s natural to seek companionship during a challenging time, spending time healing and moving forward during divorce is often the most rewarding use of your time. In our experience, this approach helps people reach the best outcome and move forward in the healthiest way.
- If you have children, be mindful of how introducing a new partner into their lives could affect them. Be slow to introduce a new partner and prioritize the well-being of your children above all else.
- Take measures to ensure you know the history and background of any potential romantic partners. Knowing their relationship history, criminal background, and any children they have is critical for the outcome of child custody in your case.
- If your romantic partner has children, discuss how you would handle a blended family and how that situation may affect the children involved.
- Use discretion when making your relationship public. Flaunting a new relationship for your ex-spouse to see may raise tensions during the divorce process and cause unnecessary battles.
Our team at HD Family Law is here to help you through every step of divorce. Our experience and knowledge of family law in New York and New Jersey allow us to answer questions specific to your situation and help you navigate divorce confidently.
If you are facing divorce and are looking for a team to fight for you, contact HD Family Law.
